The Traditions are designed to keep the GROUP from destroying ITSELF; the Steps are designed to keep US from destroying OURSELVES.

Tradition Eight: “Alcoholics Anonymous should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.” 

I ask myself on a fairly regular basis how the human race has been able to co-exist (to the extent that we have) for this long. Human civilization has existed for the better part of 3 million years, and we still can’t agree on anything, other than the fact that we can’t agree on anything!

There was a lot of contention and confusion in the early days of AA with regard to the difference between actually doing Twelve Step work and making that work possible.  It was quickly discovered that volunteers became rapidly “disenchanted with sweeping floors and brewing coffee 7 days a week” in clubhouses; that people tend to show up and take their job more seriously if they are paid!

It is very interesting and enlightening to read this tradition and discover how these issues were gradually (and painfully) resolved; it didn’t happen overnight, either. There were many in AA that had very strong opinions about this issue. Some of the people that were hired to do the day-to-day tasks so vital to the alcoholic seeking help were actually shunned by the ultraconservatives in AA at the time!  I know!

Obviously, it is very important to have recovering AA’s for this work, because when answering phones and other inquiries, it has to be someone who knows “the AA pitch.” Early on, for the so-called secretaries at local central offices, to listen to the spouses of alcoholics go on about their drunken wife or husband, arrange for hospitalization for some and get sponsorship for others, that and more was all in a day’s work.

Even after accepting that people doing this type of work should actually receive remuneration for it, the attitude was: okay, we will pay you, but it won’t be much. It was felt that these folks could “regain some measure of virtue… if they worked for AA real cheap.”  This attitude lasted for years, and I am sure there are those that still secretly believe it!

However, today the idea that getting paid for services that make Twelve Step work possible is accepted and is understood by most, and simply never comes up in the meetings I attend. In fact, it seems like many people who go to AA meetings now are unaware of the history and struggles that allow for meetings to exist.

I will be forever grateful that early AA’s didn’t just give in; they actually did hang in until we DID agree!  Wow!

Way to go AA.

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The Traditions are designed to keep the GROUP from destroying ITSELF; the Steps are designed to keep US from destroying OURSELVES.

Tradition Seven: “Every AA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.” 

As I may have mentioned before, the primary purpose of any and all Twelve Step groups is to carry its message to the suffering alcoholic/addict. This tradition especially makes that possible.

The idea here is that we cannot be beholden to anyone, except ourselves. As we say in meetings, we have no dues or fees, but we do have a basket to put them in; in other words, we have expenses. Alcoholics Anonymous must remain independent of outside influence. Also, we must be able to provide our own literature, pay rent for rooms where we meet and have office space for our *central offices.

In the early days of AA, after some bitter lessons with regard to mixing money and spirituality, the AA groups of the day were reluctant to ask the members to contribute, and members were also reluctant to contribute because of the controversy.

However, the need for more people to answer phone inquiries and respond to letters was greatly increased in 1941 by the publication in the Saturday Evening Post of an article written by Jack Alexander about Alcoholics Anonymous.  The Post was, at the time, a major source of information for many in America.

At the time, the Foundation, as it was then called, was located in New York. The article introduced the idea to the mass public that there was an answer to the nightmare that is alcoholism. After the magazine came out, the office was overwhelmed with inquiries. It quickly became evident that there was a great need for what AA was offering.

There have been many opportunities in the intervening years for AA to accept outside contributions in the form of money left to AA in members’ wills, and other sources. However, it was determined that the best policy was one of “corporate poverty,” which means enough money to meet expenses, with a prudent reserve kept for emergencies. This policy is still followed today. The early members knew that whoever “paid the piper, was apt to call the tune,” and chose wisely to avoid any possibility of distraction.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is why AA does not have endless pledge drives like PBS, or bake sales or dues or fees, or any other nonsense like that. Members who are able contribute money at each meeting, and each meeting sends contributions to the local intergroup or central office, area office, and General Service Office, so that the message can be carried that there is a way for alcoholics to live and be free.

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The Traditions are designed to keep the GROUP from destroying ITSELF; the Steps are designed to keep US from destroying OURSELVES.

Tradition Six: “An AA Group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the AA name to any related facility, or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.” 

Hello everyone, John here! It’s time for another episode of the Twelve Traditions made easy. So, let’s get right to it.

As was mentioned in my last post, the primary purpose of any and all Twelve Step groups is to carry its message to the suffering alcoholic/addict.

The concept embodied in this tradition naturally follows the concept embodied in Tradition Five. The idea here is that anything that interferes with the groups’ primary purpose, or confuses people about what is and what is not a Twelve Step group, can compromise its mission. The purpose of this tradition is to ensure we do not associate the group and/or organization with any other groups or organizations, in actuality or in the public’s mind.

Early on in AA when these traditions were first being hammered out, there were many ideas floating about with regard to exactly how we would carry the message.  Some of these included educating the public, getting involved in passing laws and becoming involved with employers.

My favorite is that we would build a hospital chain of our own, then go about gathering up skid row alkies and “sort out those who could get well, and make it possible for the rest to earn their livelihood in a kind of quarantined confinement.”[1]

Every time I read that part, I picture myself in that quarantined confinement scenario! I’d be safe and protected by the hand of AA, instead of facing life on life’s terms. Glorious!

The problem with Alcoholics Anonymous becoming a major player in the legislation game and hospital management and educating the public, and trying to resolve employer/employee disputes, is that some sort of profit must be made. As soon as that happens, you are in competition with somebody, and pretty soon after that, confusion.
Lucky for us all, AA arrived at the right answers to these and many more dilemmas. I don’t think we got there on our own. Could it be that we had help from a power greater than ourselves?
I think so.

[1] Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions pg 155

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The Traditions are designed to keep the GROUP from destroying ITSELF; the Steps are designed to keep US from destroying OURSELVES.

Tradition Five: “Each group has but one primary purpose – to carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers.” 

Hello again! John here, and it’s time for another edition of the Traditions explained. Let’s get right to it, shall we?

The chapter on this Tradition in the book Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions begins with a quote, “Shoemaker stick to thy last!” I have always wondered what it meant; so I googled it.

Apparently, a last is “a block or form shaped like a human foot (see image) and is used in making or repairing shoes.” The phrase means, “Stick with what you know”…and has been around since, well, shoes. It most likely originated because there are those people who like to pretend they know stuff when they don’t really know much… take me, for instance. Wait, I know stuff! Just ask me.

Anyway, we recovering alcoholics are in a unique position to help the suffering drunk. It is not only our primary purpose in 12-Step work, it is also our specialty, if you will. The recovering addict or alcoholic has a special ability where others may fail, to help the suffering newcomer.

Sobriety is a life and death proposition to most. It is out of self-preservation that we wish to help the next suffering addict/alcoholic.  If we want to keep what we find in sobriety, we must give it away. The book Alcoholics Anonymous tells us that, in recovery, the alcoholic is like the miner whose pick has  struck something better than gold, they have hit a limitless supply which pays a dividend only if they continue to mine it and give away the whole product.           

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Part Four: The Traditions are designed to keep the GROUP from destroying ITSELF; the Steps are designed to keep US from destroying OURSELVES.

Tradition Four: “Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting AA as a whole.”

Hello again! John here, and it’s time for another edition of the Traditions made fun! Let’s get right to it, shall we?

Simply put, this tradition states that each AA, or NA etc., group can manage their own affairs as they please, as long as the particular issue they face does not affect the entire organization. You know, I think most things are about me anyway, so I am always surprised when some issue that I have does NOT do that!  Affect AA as a whole, I mean.

Anyway, Tradition Four initially contained these words: “[1]Any two or three alcoholics gathered together….may call themselves an AA group, provided they have no other affiliation.” The idea behind this Tradition is that it would be counter to AA’s singleness of purpose if groups began identifying themselves as being Protestant or Catholic, Republican or Socialist, Executive or Blue Collar.

Sobriety and carrying that message is the sole purpose of every AA group.
I love the story contained in this chapter where the people forming up an AA group in some small Midwestern berg had some big ideas about what AA should be in their town. The idea was to build a brand new gleaming AA Center! The first floor would be a club where sober members could gather. The second story would be a detox of sorts where drunks could get back on their feet, and get some bucks to pay back debts, to boot! The third floor would house an educational project. There would be more, to be sure, but this would suffice for a start. Man, I would have been so onboard for that! Free money! Free education! Free stuff!
Of course, the project would take a lot of money, OTHER people’s money, that is. There was, of course, a promoter involved who had all kinds of ideas about how this would look, and who also ignored multiple warnings that others who had tried this approach had failed. Huh! Additionally, to make sure this endeavor stayed between the lines, 61 rules and regulations were adopted. Wait! I’m starting to not like this idea.
As you can imagine, all this did not work out so well.  Some people just wanted to pay back their debts, some just wanted some sort of free education, and others were just lonely!  Before long, confusion reigned. Inevitably the group was on the verge of collapse. It was like when the boiler exploded at Wombley’s Clapboard factory!  Well, I tell you!

Luckily for all us old-timers who get to chastise those newcomers who do it, Rule 62, (don’t take yourself too damn seriously!) was born out of this madness.
This group had, for a short while, enjoyed their right to be wrong. But, because the promoter had sought out AA’s Foundation Office for advice, they survived, and AA was the better for their experience.
John B

[1] Twelve Steps And Twelve Traditions Pgs. 146 and 147

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The Traditions are designed to keep the GROUP from destroying ITSELF; the Steps are designed to keep US from destroying OURSELVES! Tradition

Three: The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking.

Hi, folks! Thought it would be interesting and helpful this outing to present some great questions I found just lying around on the internet!  Bring some of these up for discussion the next time you find yourself at a (dreaded) TRADITIONS MEETING! Try it; you’ll look like a pro!

In considering the essence of Tradition Three, ask yourself the following:

Do I prejudge some new AA members?

Is there some kind of alcoholic whom I privately do not want in my AA group?

Do I set myself up as a judge of whether a newcomer is being genuine?

Do I let politics or language, religion (or lack of it), race, education, age, or any other similar factors get in the way of my ability to carry the message?

Am I overly impressed by another’s story, job or career?  Can I treat this new member as one more sick human, just like the rest of us?

When someone comes to AA for help, does it matter to me where they live or whether they have been to AA before? How about what other problems they might have?

If you answered YES to any or all of these questions, congratulations, you are just like the rest of us!

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The Traditions are designed to keep the GROUP from destroying ITSELF; the Steps are designed to keep US from destroying OURSELVES!

Tradition Two:  “For our group purpose, there is but one ultimate authority – a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience.  Our leaders are but trusted servants.” (Also adapted for NA, OA, CA, and

“Wait!” you say. “Who’s in charge of AA? Do you mean to tell me that there is no CEO, president, or collection department (dues collection for deadbeats)? No board of directors to “cast erring members into outer darkness[1]? How can this be?”

Well, you sure do ask a lot of questions!  But I will tell you this, if you ask any AA, NA (but not AAA) member, they will most likely tell you that the obvious answer is that this thing we have is a miracle. No, I’m being serious now. That’s because we see them all the time; miracles, I mean. They just aren’t that unusual to see in meetings.
A loving God as He expresses Himself…. Tradition Two stems from the Tradition before it, and as were all the Traditions, was built from the experiences of newly sober alcoholics in the early days of AA.

The question then becomes: “Does AA have real leadership?” Most emphatically the answer is, “Yes, notwithstanding the apparent lack of it.[2]

In the early years of AA one of the founders, Bill W., was offered a large sum of money by the administrator of an area hospital to move AA work there. It would mean he would have an opportunity to receive a slice of the profits made by the hospital.  He thought about his wife working all day and then coming home to a house full of drunks who were living there, and not paying for the privilege, and how broke he was. Bill believed this idea was not only ethical; it was actually in the Bible!  Something about a laborer being worth his hire.  You could look it up if you don’t believe me.

Anyway, there was a meeting scheduled for that night, and Bill came through the door, bursting with the good news!  But as he told his story, he noticed that his audience was not sharing his enthusiasm.
Finally, one of the members spoke up and told Bill that he spoke for the group when he said that “AA could never become professional. What we have won’t run on ethics only; it has to be better.” How right they were!  Because, once you go professional, you must have a structural hierarchy.  Somebody got to be “Da Prez”!

I think that story is a very good example of a “Loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience” if there ever was one!  Seriously, there is nothing as unstoppable as an enthusiastic alcoholic who has already made up his mind about what will happen, before telling others who may be affected by his decision, what is about to happen!

[1] Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, Alcoholics Anonymous Pg 132

[2] Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, Pgs. 134, 135

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The Traditions are designed to keep the GROUP from destroying ITSELF; the Steps are designed to keep US from destroying OURSELVES!

Tradition One:  “Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends on A.A. unity.” (Also: NA, OA, CA

For me, a valuable aspect of this tradition has been the fact that, “No AA can compel another to do anything; nobody can be punished or expelled” from AA.  As someone who was routinely punished by society for my misbehavior, and has been expelled from more than one drinking establishment, I was relieved to find out that the only requirement for membership in AA really is an honest desire to stop drinking!

The Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous were first published in 1946 in The Grapevine magazine and were developed slowly and painfully through much struggle, hard lessons and compromise. Some of these struggles are outlined in the book “Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions.”  Also, they have been adopted by every 12-Step recovery program in the world.

The purpose of the Traditions is to ensure the continued existence of meetings and meeting places, to keep the doors open for everyone seeking relief from addiction, and to give us a framework to accomplish this task.

According to a pamphlet published by Alcoholics Anonymous in 1955, titled “AA Tradition, How It Developed, By Bill W”:
“When an alcoholic applies the Twelve Steps of our recovery program to his personal life, his disintegration stops and his unification begins. The Power which now holds him together in one piece overcomes those forces which had rent him apart. Exactly the same principle applies to each A.A. group and to Alcoholics Anonymous as a whole. So long as the ties which bind us together prove far stronger than those forces which would divide us if they could, all will be well. We shall be secure as a movement; our essential unity will remain a certainty…”

Additionally, Bill wrote: “Unity is so vital to us A.A.’s that we cannot risk those attitudes and practices which have sometimes demoralized other forms of human society. Thus far we have succeeded because we have been different.”

The Steps and Traditions that continue to underlie the 12-Step recovery model to this day remain a significant achievement in establishing a framework to establish a safe haven for people recovering from addiction and dysfunction in their lives.

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In August, I celebrated ten years of sobriety. It is hard to believe that I have had the honor of being in recovery for a decade. Today my life is so unbelievably different than it was when I was still actively using.

Like most addicts and alcoholics, my life was entirely out of control at every level. I had all but failed out of school, and after ten years in and out of college, I still did not have a degree. My parents tried their best to help me, but I manipulated them and blamed them for my using. My physical health was continuing to decline. There were many mental health diagnoses, but I was never honest with the doctors about the drugs and alcohol I was consuming. My addiction ended up landing me in the hospital and being Baker Acted. Then after about twelve years of active addiction and a year of failed attempts to get sober, a miracle happened. At some point, I became willing to be honest and follow some simple direction.

In the last ten years, recovery and spiritual principles have drastically changed me from the inside out. During this time I have remained free from drugs and alcohol, but that is just a part of the gift of recovery. I have an inner peace and connection with my Higher Power that is hard to put into words but is with me each day. I have regained my physical health and sanity. My family is a part of my life again. I am currently in a master’s program after earning two bachelor degrees. Last December I married my beautiful wife in front of our friends and families. I am available to help other addicts and alcoholics on a daily basis. Joining the millions of people in active recovery is the best thing that has happened to me.

To anyone currently struggling with the many forms of addiction, my prayer and hope is that you join this way of life.

Alex K.


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Just for Today by Lexi B.

On September 17th, 2018, posted in: recovery by

Do you ever have a day where everything doesn’t go your way? Your dog wakes you up barking, you spill your tea all over the counter (and clean dishes), traffic is awful, work is super busy, you’re in a bad mood… the list goes on. You open up your web browser and go to and read the daily meditation. Just for today… Finally, a sigh of relief. Then, halfway through the day, your moment of clarity and relief is gone. You are stressed again. Can’t I catch a break?!

I recently finished my 7th Step with my sponsor. “We humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings.” I finally realized, when I have those bad days it is one of two things: I haven’t prayed to God or I am acting out on my character defects. Normally it is a combination of both. The 7th Step taught me that I’m not perfect. As my sponsor likes to me remind me, I am human. God is perfect. He can remove my pain and give me joy. All I have to do is ask.

The 6th Step was pretty painful, listing all my defects of character. Procrastination, Perfectionism, and Projecting, to name a few. I am so thankful the Steps go in order, or else I would still be stuck at Step 6 having a pity party for myself. Boo-hoo. Step 7 lets you humbly ask God to remove all this pain and replace it with the positive spiritual principle. I can finally say, “God, I need you. Please remove this hurt and show me how to live!” Unfortunately, with this Step it’s not that simple. God may remove a shortcoming, then it can pop back up in a few weeks.  I have to practice patience and trust in God’s timing. If I act out on one of my defects, I can say, “Okay, I made a mistake. Let’s try to learn from this and not do it again.” I can pray and once again ask God to remove it. Next time, hopefully, I can pause, ask for help and respond with the opposite spiritual principle. It is progress, not perfection, right?

Prayer: God, please help remove my defects of character and replace them with the opposite spiritual principle. Give me the patience to trust in your timing. Help me live out your will and help others. Amen.

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